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I’ve been away a while.  I needed to be.  I needed to figure out what I wanted from my life and what I wanted to do with myself.

I’m still a wife and mother.  I still work.  I still have a home, bills and everything that comes with life.

I still have depression.  I am still searching for my own happy place.

I have been listening to podcasts more and more lately.  I switched jobs back in August 2016, which has lead to a longer commute (funny how 3 extra miles gained 20 extra minutes to my drive time).  These podcasts focus on productivity, time management, business, and simplicity.

Simplicity – it seems like such an easy thing to accomplish.  However, the reality is that it can be very elusive.

So, as I focus on simplicity, the theme that has come up more than anything is goals for the new year.  Resolutions have never really worked for me.  I wasn’t sure why, but one of the podcasts I listened to brought some clarity to me and I plan on exploring the thought process in depth in the near future.

So, if I cannot seem to make resolutions work for me, how can I set goals for myself for this year?  I turned my thoughts to my friend Kate.  Over the years, she has focused not on resolutions or goals, but mantras; usually one word mantras that define the focus for the year for her.  The first year I met her, her focus was “Saying Yes”.  Yes to those things that scared her, yes to going out, yes to whatever life threw her way – it brought her out of her comfort zone and led to a ton of personal growth.

So, how could I do the same thing for myself?

I focused on what mantra I wanted to go with.  The one word that kept coming to me in all of my thoughts, dreams and meditations was:


Finished?  Why would this word keep coming back to me?  I looked around me – at the unfinished projects, unfinished goals, unfinished dreams, unfinished plans – and realized that the word was pretty close to what I needed to do in my life.

But I rebelled against the word “finished”.  It sounds so final.  So defeatist.  So done.

I’m not done.  I have a ton of things that I want to do with my life.  Done is not what I am.  I am my own biggest life project and I’m not done!

So I looked up synonyms to the word finished – and one word stood out to me – Accomplished.

I have projects that I want to accomplish.

I have goals that I want to accomplish.

I have plans that I want to accomplish.

Some of these accomplishments are one and done.  Most of my accomplishments in life are lifetime projects – only steps of which are truly accomplished.

Writing out all of my projects, goals and dreams led me to a long list of items I want to accomplish.  Some of them are easy, some of them are important and some of them are pie-in-the-sky wishes.  But it led to clarity in what I not only need, but want, to accomplish this year.


That is my goal for the year – to accomplish what I set out for myself.  I have 4 goals that I want to accomplish:

  • Study for and pass my certification test
  • Complete my mom’s flamingo project
  • Assemble and finish LaLa’s graduation blanket (it’s only been 3 years!)
  • Complete the crochet blanket I started 17 years ago.

I am going to accomplish what I set out for myself.

I can do this.


Trying My Best

Several months ago, I decided to get my life back on track.  So I posted this list to help keep myself accountable.

So you don’t have to go back and read the post unless you want to, here is a short recap:

Out of the list, here is what I selected to focus on:

  • Get more sleep
  • Drink more water
  • Get more organized (I suddenly realized that my grammar can be really horrible! Gah!  Sorry about that!)

Now – I realize that posting this is probably boring to my readers, and I apologize for that.  However, I’m posting this update to help keep myself accountable.  So, without further ado – here is my attempt to keep myself accountable:

More Sleep:

As Hun can attest, I have been going to bed earlier most nights.  I am usually in bed no later than 10 pm (usually).  Some nights, I’m making it to bed as early as 9pm.  Now….that doesn’t mean that I’m going to sleep at that point.  But I am winding down and (usually) asleep no later than 10:30pm.  This is a HUGE improvement from the 11:00pm-Midnight time-frame I was going to be at.  I’m still waking up at 5:30am, but now I’m usually waking up before the alarm clock and feeling refreshed rather than resentful.

More Water:

I’ll be honest – I was doing really well with this, and then I back slid….  As I stated before, my fluid intake mostly consisted of Dr Pepper.  A typical day had me drinking anywhere between 64 and 100 ounces.  This is a LOT!!!  As recently as a month ago, I was down to only drinking 12-20 ounces per day (I only back-slid to 20-40 ounces a day, so not horrible, but not good either).  The rest of my fluid intake was water or lemonade flavored water.  I’m really proud of this and will totally break the habit very soon!  (The new job will help immensely with this goal.)

More Organization:

This is still a work in progress.  Being off for a couple of weeks is helping this, but it is not anywhere near where I would like it to be at.  With the uncertainty of what my new job will bring, I’m going to give myself a break on this and see what the future brings with the new schedule.

So…I’m following my list and following the last piece of advice the closest:

Just trying my best.

New Year Intentions

Happy New Year everyone!

I’ve been seeing so many articles lately about resolutions for the New Year that I’m already tired of them.  I’ve decided to make my list of resolutions for the year though – just to keep up with everyone else – because I know someone somewhere will ask me what mine are.  So – here they are, in no particular order:

  • I resolve to never ever make another resolution as long as I continue to experience new years.

Yep – that’s the long and short of it.  I think I may actually be able to keep this resolution for a change!  And, if by some chance I break my resolution….I won’t feel guilty about it. 

In fact, when and/or if I do break my resolution and mistakenly make a resolution and the inevitable happens and I break that resolution – my point will have been made that I should have never bothered making a resolution in the first place!


I don’t know why I haven’t thought of doing this before now.  Surely I’m not the only one to have finally had this revelation?  Where are the others decidedly deciding that they are no longer making any resolutions – only to feel guilty hours, days, weeks, months later when they’re unable to continue in their well-intentioned ways?

Instead of resolutions, I think I’ll start a new tradition – New Year Intentions:  Those things you would like to do more of, but won’t feel guilty about when they don’t happen.

Such as:

  • Say yes more often.  A good friend of mine did this a couple of years ago and she loves the results for the most part.  I’m going to follow in her footsteps and make this my intent for this year.  If I have to say no to something – no harm, no foul – I intend to say yes remember?  I can’t help it if this time I have to say no.
  • Walk my dogs more.  They love going for walks and I don’t take them often enough.  If I’m unable to take them, they still get plenty of exercise and since they don’t read or speak fluent English (although, strangely enough, they know the word walk), they won’t know that I’m slacking on my intents.
  • Drink more water.  Someone will have the nerve to tell me to quit drinking my favorite drink – Dr Pepper – and I’ll have to restrain myself from wanting to gouge their eyes out.  So, I’ll just intend to drink more water instead of cutting back on Dr P.

I think I can handle these intentions.  I think I can even follow through on my intentions. 

What about you – are you going to be another one of the schlubs that makes resolutions that get broken so easily or are you going to join with me on the new tradition of New Year Intentions?