I’ve been away a while. I needed to be. I needed to figure out what I wanted from my life and what I wanted to do with myself.
I’m still a wife and mother. I still work. I still have a home, bills and everything that comes with life.
I still have depression. I am still searching for my own happy place.
I have been listening to podcasts more and more lately. I switched jobs back in August 2016, which has lead to a longer commute (funny how 3 extra miles gained 20 extra minutes to my drive time). These podcasts focus on productivity, time management, business, and simplicity.
Simplicity – it seems like such an easy thing to accomplish. However, the reality is that it can be very elusive.
So, as I focus on simplicity, the theme that has come up more than anything is goals for the new year. Resolutions have never really worked for me. I wasn’t sure why, but one of the podcasts I listened to brought some clarity to me and I plan on exploring the thought process in depth in the near future.
So, if I cannot seem to make resolutions work for me, how can I set goals for myself for this year? I turned my thoughts to my friend Kate. Over the years, she has focused not on resolutions or goals, but mantras; usually one word mantras that define the focus for the year for her. The first year I met her, her focus was “Saying Yes”. Yes to those things that scared her, yes to going out, yes to whatever life threw her way – it brought her out of her comfort zone and led to a ton of personal growth.
So, how could I do the same thing for myself?
I focused on what mantra I wanted to go with. The one word that kept coming to me in all of my thoughts, dreams and meditations was:
Finished? Why would this word keep coming back to me? I looked around me – at the unfinished projects, unfinished goals, unfinished dreams, unfinished plans – and realized that the word was pretty close to what I needed to do in my life.
But I rebelled against the word “finished”. It sounds so final. So defeatist. So done.
I’m not done. I have a ton of things that I want to do with my life. Done is not what I am. I am my own biggest life project and I’m not done!
So I looked up synonyms to the word finished – and one word stood out to me – Accomplished.
I have projects that I want to accomplish.
I have goals that I want to accomplish.
I have plans that I want to accomplish.
Some of these accomplishments are one and done. Most of my accomplishments in life are lifetime projects – only steps of which are truly accomplished.
Writing out all of my projects, goals and dreams led me to a long list of items I want to accomplish. Some of them are easy, some of them are important and some of them are pie-in-the-sky wishes. But it led to clarity in what I not only need, but want, to accomplish this year.
That is my goal for the year – to accomplish what I set out for myself. I have 4 goals that I want to accomplish:
- Study for and pass my certification test
- Complete my mom’s flamingo project
- Assemble and finish LaLa’s graduation blanket (it’s only been 3 years!)
- Complete the crochet blanket I started 17 years ago.
I am going to accomplish what I set out for myself.
I can do this.