We’re having issues with Rowdy.  This is an ongoing struggle – or battle of wills you might say.  At 16, almost 17, he is head-strong, stubborn and suffers from the same affliction that most teenagers do – “my parents are stupid and have no clue what they’re talking about” mentality.

Combine these traits and you end up with Rowdy.  A kid who thinks he knows how to handle life, will not listen to the voice of reason/experience, and is bound and determined to do things his way, consequences be damned.

A family member once said, “All teenagers enter into this tunnel around the age of 15.  You have to wait for them to come out the other side – usually around the age of 30.”

I never understood that comment until now.  LaLa and Buddy both seem to have missed the exit that takes kids to this tunnel.  Rowdy has entered into the tunnel head first, going full blast and insists that he likes the darkness just fine.  Monkey is not yet 15……she can’t decide if she wants to take the exit or not…..

Back to Rowdy.  He’s a good kid for the most part.  He’s not done anything too outrageous (yet).  What he is doing is failing school (everything….he didn’t pass any classes the first semester), and skipping class.  He was caught skipping school and that’s when Hun and I said – NO MORE!

I called a meeting of the parents – Hun and I, along with Jetsam and her boyfriend/fiancé – to attempt to figure out what we, as the adults/parents in Rowdy’s life, can do to help him.

Until this point, Rowdy had told Hun and I that we were too strict.  We were being too controlling and not allowing him to make his own mistakes.  Fine.  We backed off.  It resulted in him failing the first semester.

Talking to Jetsam (her boyfriend didn’t show up – that’s a story for another post), she agreed that something needed to be done.  She had no ideas on what that “something” should be.  I had one idea – if Rowdy would at least try and finish the school year as a senior, we’d allow him to take the GED test early so he could be done with school.  There were other conditions in there as well, but we also added bonuses – like allowing him to get his driver’s license.  We’d also allow him to fail and not graduate with his friends if he chose to continue acting the way he’s acting.

Miraculously, Jetsam agreed that this was a good idea.

I wrote out a contract and we met the next day with Rowdy to discuss the terms and make modifications as necessary.

Neither Jetsam or Rowdy wanted to make any changes to what Hun and I expected and were offering.  All agreed, all signed, all received a copy of the contract to review as needed.

It has been about 3 weeks since that meeting.  Some of Rowdy’s grades have come up.  Some of them have not.

I’m no longer worried about him graduating or not like I was before.  Rowdy knows exactly what we expect of him and he knows that we are here to help him if he wants the help.  But he has to want it and ask for it.

Hun and I also know that Rowdy has a mind of his own.  What he tells us is one thing and what he’s thinking is another.  I will not be surprised if he has another plan in mind all together.

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